Addiction, of any kind, is a family disease.
Often spouses and family members suffer most from addiction or any other self-destructive behaviors.
Without realizing it people may take roles that in trying to help the family and the person who abuses alcohol or drugs may actually be contributing to continuing the problem even though they are trying to end it.
People who work with substance abuse call this enabling behavior and they call this kind of pattern codependency because the family members are stuck in the addictive pattern along with the addicted person. The patterns developed in focusing on an addicted family member often become patterns that persist in other relationships through life.
People may become caretakers, addicted to romance or “the savior” in relationships in adult life.
If you see yourself in this profile, you may want to take steps to “recover” from codependent patterns in yourself.
Do you feel responsible for other people their feelings, thoughts, actions, choices, wants, needs, well-being, and destiny?
Do you feel compelled to help people solve their problems or by trying to take care of their feelings?
Do you feel it easier to feel and express anger about injustices done to others than about injustices done to you?
Do you feel safest and most comfortable when you are giving to others?
Do you feel insecure and guilty when someone gives to you?
Do you feel empty, bored, and worthless if you don’t have someone else to take care of, a problem to solve, or a crisis to deal with?
Are you unable to stop talking, thinking, and worrying about other people and their problems?
Do you lose interest in your own life when you are in love?
Do you stay in relationships that don’t work and tolerate abuse in order to keep people loving you?
Do you leave bad relationships only to form new ones that don’t work either.